Planning for dying. Learning for living.
Why you are here
Perhaps one of the following statement describes why you are here.
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You are approaching a major transition and you want to reflect on how you are living your life.
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You have received a terminal diagnosis and need guidance.
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Your family member or friend is dying and you need help.
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Your family member or friend has died and you need a funeral celebrant.
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Your family has difficult dynamics and you need help communicating about end of life matters.
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You don’t need a therapist, but you do need someone to talk with in the midst of the challenging circumstances relating to dying and death.
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Quite simply, you're curious.
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You think you might want to be a death doula or other kind of end of life care giver.
You are not alone
Humans have engaged the reality of death in myriad ways for eons. You are entering into the rich heritage of those who have sought answers to the questions of the meaning of death and how humans might flourish in this life given our finitude. Given the vastness of this reality, you may be fearful in the face of this natural process that comes to all living things.
Here is good news: death is a friendly mystery.
You can come to know this for yourself by befriending your death. Engaging this mystery by learning more about your end-of-life choices, focusing on what living well means to you, and cultivating gratitude in your living time are the bread and butter of fellowship with this inevitable presence.
With a reasonable, actionable plan, you can lay aside fear and focus on what matters most.
What is dying well?
Dying well is an intentional conversation that offers you concrete goals, plans and further reflection. Dying well can help you live well. Invite me to help you set the table to welcome this relationship with abundance.
Who I help
I help all kinds of people, but mostly I work with folks who are outside of a religious tradition, find themselves in a tricky family situation or men whose life circumstance finds them wanting to make changes.
How I do it
During our conversations, I listen for several elements: what questions you are asking, what words or phrases you repeat, and what story emerges from your sharing. Then I ask you questions that help you focus on what is a stake, why, and for whom.
What is in it for you?
Most walk away from our work together with a sense of gratitude for living, greater appreciation for the complexities of their loved ones, and a renewed sense of purpose. Others derive greater benefit from focusing on the actionable plan we developed. What will you leave with?
Offerings
When you sign up for one of the offerings below, we will talk via phone or online to set up a time and place to meet.
